Declare Your Independence!!

Okay, ladies, I know that many of us women have been brought up to believe that we are supposed to care of everyone else’s needs ahead of our own because that is what good wives and mothers do. Okay, I agree with that…….but only to an extent. You see, what seems to happen is that you get married and you have the kids, and then your life is no longer your own. It becomes all about the husband and the kids, so much so that there is really nothing left for you. It’s not just wives that experience this, either. It is the same in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, especially when they live together. The fact of the matter, ladies, is that you HAVE to take time for yourself and pursue the things that make you happy. Being able to do so is what helps you learn to love yourself and be truly satisfied with your life. The man and the kids get to do things they enjoy. What’s wrong with you doing things that you enjoy? Stand up for yourselves, ladies, and declare independence! Take your life and make it your own again! This doesn’t mean you don’t still care about your family and still do things with them and for them. What it does mean, though, is that you take time to do things you enjoy and you get to know yourself as who you are instead of as someone’s girlfriend, wife, or mother because you are more than that!

Incidentally, your family will be much better off, too, because you will be happy and self-fulfilled. This, in turn, makes you more willing to help them with their needs with no complaints. If you have teenagers, they will tell you that you’re being selfish, but don’t listen. Enjoying your life is NOT selfish. It is a RIGHT that we all have and that we don’t give up just because we have boyfriends, husbands, or kids. Teenagers are simply selfish and think the world revolves around them, especially teenage daughters (this I know from experience!).

One more thing: if your man doesn’t allow you to do things that you enjoy and is not understanding about you wanting to do these things, he does not really care about you. All he cares about is himself and what he can get out of you. A real and loving man wants you to be happy and fulfilled in your life simply because you are the woman he loves, and he will do whatever he can to see that you are, even if it means having to help take care of the house and the kids. It’s his house and kids, too, after all, right? So, ladies, stand up to these men and children, and declare your independence!!! You will be glad you did!